Just take the damn selfie!
Sorry not sorry. Someone else’s opinion of me is none of my business. I’ve learned that the only opinion that matters and that has the ability to dictate my life is my own. I am my biggest cheerleader and advocate. I am the only person on this Earth who can truly understand why I do the things I do, say the things I say, or want the things I want. And for these reasons, I am unapologetic and confident in myself.
If others do not understand you, your experiences, your knowledge, or what have you, how can they have some expert (and unwanted) opinion of your life and your choices? They can’t. They literally cannot unless it is an uninformed opinion, which it probably is. Now, I’m not trying to come across overly sassy, I’m just being brutally honest.This is how I learned to sleep at night and deal with my anxiety when it comes to other people instead of laying in bed at night thinking of that one thing I said that one day ten years ago to that one person and being mortified. Why I started making decisions for myself because they made me happy instead of making decisions I thought others would approve of.
As most teenagers do, I spent nearly all of my teen years trying to fit in and be the version of a person I thought would please my peers. I said and did things I didn’t truly believe in, I didn’t take my integrity seriously, and I apologized so often. Apologies for things that, first off, don’t even require an apology, but especially not an apology from me! Be unapologetic in your authentic self! Who cares what anyone else thinks? You shouldn’t. And you have nothing to apologize for. I’m sorry, but I think Backstreet Boys are and always will be superior to Nsync. Why do I need to apologize for that? I don’t! (Plus it’s just a fact that BSB beats Nsync any day).
What others think does not affect your life. Just because someone, and trust me there are plenty of someones, doesn’t like me or agree with me doesn’t mean something fundamental in my life is going to change or that all of a sudden everything I do have is not worthy. I’m still going to go home at night to a loving boyfriend, 8 legs of animals, and a bottle of red wine and be just fine curled up on the couch watching The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel.
I am confident in myself because I can look myself in the mirror and be happy with the decisions I’ve made, the lessons I’ve learned, and the path I’m on. All things ultimately chosen by me. You can be your own confidence! And this goes for both women and men – feel empowered to be unapologetically you! Embrace your confidence! Take note, confidence isn’t all about how you look; it’s a personality trait. Confident people are influential and mesmerizing to be around. You want to be like them and spend time with them and hope that some of their confidence rubs off on you. But guess what? You control your own confidence! By not caring what others think! By not apologizing for your opinions or your actions!
It all comes full circle. Be confident and unapologetic. You’ll be just fine.
Until next time,