Let’s be real. This applies to literally everything when you’re 25. Hangovers are worse. People start asking you when you’re getting married. They ask you what your degree is in. What job do you have? Have you bought a house yet?
Ya’ll. It’s 2018. Honestly, each time someone asks me a question that hints at my age and timeline of my life, I feel like I would prefer to have a herniated disc (don’t @ me on this, I have one right now and it’s the literal fucking worst). Millennials are traveling more. Starting families later on. Maybe going to college later. Are more entrepreneurial and have aspirations bigger than a typical 9-5.
All that being said; do you still feel like each day, you’re seeing someone new in your social media feed getting engaged, announcing pregnancies, buying houses, etc.? I certainly do. And as a millennial twenty-something (and a woman because duh woman brain), I tend to compare myself to what I see my peers doing. Now keep in mind, people only post to social media what they want others to see, but still. I have only done like .5 of any of those things And please don’t take this as ragging on any millennial who has accomplished these things – that’s AMAZING. More power to you and I truly envy you! You go girls and boys!
The house I live in? Kyle (my man baby) and I bought it at like a 9:1 ratio. I’m the 1. Because I’m 25. Living in 2018. In Colorado. And everything costs as much as the house Elon Musk friggin’ BOUGHT JUST FOR FUNSIES across the street from his regular house. (Ps it was 6.75 million). I was, however, fortunate enough to have my college paid for, for which I will be forever grateful to mom and pop. But the debt I see my peers dealing with? I don’t know if I could do that because I’ve never experienced it and I admire those who handle it each day.
I’m not engaged, but I do have kids – they might have four legs and a lot of hair, but they eat better than I do. I know a lot of you can relate. My whole point is to please please remember wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, as long as you’re moving forward by 1 inch each day, you’re doing just fine. Regardless of what our peers want to show us on social media, there’s a lot we don’t know.
Let’s revisit my example from above; the house Kyle and I bought at a 9:1 ratio. Kyle is almost 31 – financially stable and just buying his first house. Me? 25 and just under 3 years out of college with like $0 in savings. So when I posted “OMG WE BOUGHT A HOUSE”, I really meant Kyle mostly bought this house and I was just a contributor. Granted, I have poured a lot into the interior, but the initial purchase? Totally Kyle; but of course I didn’t say that on social media. When I think about it, I didn’t post it because that would have been embarrassing – right? Like..why wasn’t I ready to purchase a home? Why is it taboo to be honest? IT’S NOT. And I’m guilty of it just as I’m sure others are too!
But I’m here to tell you don’t sweat it; life is not a competition. Life is too short is what it is. Appreciate where you are, what you have, and especially who you have. Everything else is just noise. 😉
Until next time,